THROW-BACK THURSDAY: VISITING DALLAS 1983, BUZZCUT AND CARHARTTS

For a long time, I maintained a relationship with the ex who brutally dumped me, because (a) I didn't want to lose access to the child we'd been raising together and (b) it was something expected in lesbian-feminist culture, that we not further divide our community by feuding with ex-lovers. So many of us were ex-lovers. 

Hence, I made at least annual visits to Dallas where my ex lived, driving or flying from SF. In this photo I am on a couch with her, our child, and her newest lover. I have cropped them out because I don't have their permission to show their images and, in the case of my ex, she would probably now object to any documentation of the fact that she spent over two decades as a
lesbian.

 I loved those overalls. They were indestructible. And I miss that plushy buzz.